Words of encouragement for recovering addicts
This site has received several hits from readers who used the search terms “encouragement for recovering addict,” and “words for recovering addicts.”
Even though none has left a comment or asked a question, I sense a need for something within them. I know this need well because I went through a long period of time “lurking” on the internet, using search terms like “suicide of a loved one,” and similar phrases. My need was and remains great because my loved one was also a life-long drinker. In her time, there were no rehab facilities, no counselors, no follow-ups, nothing. People were merely drunks, sluts, trash, relegated to the heap of worthless humans, the dregs of society, castaways. My loved one received no help from anyone, not even her family. I am ashamed of my failure to offer her any words of love or encouragement. One day, she ended her own life.
If you are someone who looks back with guilt and regret for words never said, you are not alone. Like all others who share your feelings, you are not to be condemned for holding those feelings. They are natural. Some day you may understand this. For me, I now understand that my loved one’s decision was hers and hers alone. I also understand that my words would have changed nothing in all probability. Her addiction and her isolation were too long lasting for a quick and easy reversal of her suicidal thoughts. Perhaps one person’s words would have had no appreciable effect, but many from many different people may conceivably have given her hope. I still believe this.
My thoughts and my ideas came too late for her, but I have decided finally to offer words of encouragement to any and all recovering addicts I become aware of. For the time being, I have chosen this venue. I may expand my efforts later. Only time will tell. But if I can have a positive effect on one, just one, recovering addict, I will consider myself a success.
For recovering addicts: I know with certainty that someone cares about you and your life. You may believe otherwise but someone always cares about an addict they love.The problem sometime is in the mind of the addict. You may be convinced otherwise for any number of reasons, paramount of which is the hesitance of a loved one to speak his or her words of love and care and concern to you. Many people have a hard time revealing their emotions. Take my word for it, they do love you and they are devastated at their inability to help you. Please try to understand them. By understanding them, you may help yourself.
For the loved ones of addicts and recovering addicts: Your loved one needs your love and support more than you realize. Overcome your resistance to saying those simple words, “I love you.” Those three words may mean the difference between life and death. But more, be available when your loved one wants to talk or just wants someone in their presence. Addicts are very lonely and very frightened people. If they know someone is available, they may not take that fateful step. If you are alert to the moods and needs of your loved one, you will soon be able to recognize when they want and need someone near. Remember, they need you, but do not enable their addiction. Offer only your presence and your love and your support.